Original Guru of Good Game
Original Guru of Good Game

Episode · 1 year ago

The Good Man Guide Series

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

This episode is all about what is a Good Man. This series we will define what is a Good man, how to spot one, and how to get to know one.

Hello everyone, and welcome back to a another exciting episode of the original Guru of good game, or the og of good game for short, however you want to pronounce it. It is okay with me. I really don't mind either way. It's fine. And I just want to say a shout out to all of the people who have listened. Thank you for getting me over that one thousand mark. I do appreciate it and I just want to send y'all all out a big hug and show you some love, because I really do appreciate that and I hope you keep on listening to me and I hope we can get to another thousand. And for those who listen and then decided not to listen anymore, I appreciate you listening for as long as you did. You know me talking Shit and I really do thank you for sticking around for as long as you did and I hope you find what it is that you out there listening for. And if you don't and you feel like you want to come back and hang out with me and listen some more and shoot the shit, please do. I would love to have you back, but if you don't want to come back, Hey, I wish you the best of luck in life and I hope you find what you're listening for. Okay. Today we gonna get into a topic here that is near and dear to my hurt and it's an interesting topic because it kind of reflects a some what of my character and what I used to be. When I'm going to say what I used to be, on say what I have become is more to the point on that one. Well, not so much as more. What I become is what I've always been, but I've come to accept what I've always been, even though I was ridiculed, made fun of, laugh that and just basically put down for being who I was. It was really hard times growing up, trying to live up to other people's expectations of myself instead of me living up to the expectations I set for my own self, and that was a really trying time, but I learned overcome things. You know, you get older, you start to learn, you get experience, you get wisdom and then you realize that the only opinion that matters is the one that you have of yourself, because that's the only opinion that's going to actually manifest itself in your brain and take real hole to actually developing you into that person that you want to be. Now we got that out the way. Now we can get into this topic that is kind of near and dear to me, and the topic is. Well, before I explain what the topic is, let me tell you how I got to decide to do episode this week on this I was watching and episode of Jerry Springer. Was a rerun episode, but I was watching it and there was a girl on there. She was on the show to meet, I guess, her crush or her man crush Monday, or whoever the fuck he was. Anyway, it started off when he was asking her questions about the guy and she was explaining, oh, he's a good man, he got a job, he got his own car, he ain't got his own place, I like the way he dressed, his swag. Okay, if that's what you consider as a good man, okay, I guess that's what it could be. I don't know. For a woman that does not seem like that's a good man, for a gold digger does, but for a real woman they don't. Well, at least for a good woman that don't. We need to start definding them to good woman, real woman. Okay, there's big difference that we going to get into it on a later date. Anyway, the episode was that she thought she had a good man and he come on out and they played a little game and you know all this stuff, you know, flirtation, and they had two big dice and they was rolling them and everything and all...

...of us. And the thing that struck me kind of strange was she was adamant about him being a good man. He's a good man, he's a good one, I can't let him go. He's a good until a girlfriend he had for a few years, did he live with, came out and try to whoop ass and that brought me to this topic that I just had to get out because it's Kinda something did I, you know, I take personally. And the thing is that I decided that I needed to come out with a topic on good men and I was thinking about calling to the good man guide series, and it's to help not only men who are good men have a voice in the world and be recognized for who they are, but it's also for women to recognize what a good man is for you. See, there's the most important part of that topic. What is a good man for you? Now girlfriend. Her definition of a good man was all superficial car, job, crib, apartment, whatever, stylish clothes, and for that he's a good man. At no point in time, when Jerry was asking her, well, what makes him a good man, did any time she came out with anything about the content of his character. And I think that's what you ladies are missing out on when you sitting up here trying to decide what a good man is, and then you're not really making that decision for yourself. Most of the time I hear women talking about a good man is based on superficial things that the media, TV, radio, entertainment, all that shit out there has convinced you that these are the qualities of a good man, and they're not. I mean Donald Trump got a car, donald trump got his own place, Donald Trump got a lot of money, donald trump even got nice clothes. But is he a good person? Hell No, Hell No. He cheated on every woman he's ever been with, every wife he's ever had. He's cheating on them, every single one of them. There's not one wife did he put the ring on that finger that that man has ever been faithful to. And the reason why I bring that up is because one thing is I'm really getting offended and sick and tired of women on social media whining about there ain't no good men, can't find a good man. Good man don't exist no more. Oh, we the fuck out here. I know I'm one. I've known that for years and I always tried to downplay it because it was always, you know, he lame, he boring, he is he that, he ain't exciting, he ain't this, he ain't that. Yeah, because I'm not out here getting in the stupid shit. It seemed like a good man to a lot of women out here. Is it a motherfucker is in jail or getting out of jail or doing shit that will get him put in jail, or sleeping with your friends, sleeping with your family members or sleeping with a whole bunch of other women? Did you have no idea about but he a good man because why, he got a car, he got a job, and you mean he got some money, he had his own place, he I he dressed Nicey, I like his swag, as they say, but look how you play yourself, and that's exactly what's happening. Y'All playing yourselves because y'all basing a good man on a fantasy and not a reality. And then the sad part about it is that I don't think any of y'all know what a good man is. So how you going to say there's no good men if you ain't never met one, if you ain't never dated one, if you ain't never been intimate with one, then you have no idea what a good man is. And he you keep chasing after the same kind of man, expecting him...

...to be a good man from the last one, and then you get the same thing over that's insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. That's insanity, and unfortunately a lot of women in America have decided to go insane and keep trying to date the same type of do because this is what you want, not what you need. I got an episode on that. Y'All need to check that one out. If you are lady, you need to figure out what it is that you need in that man and not what you want. So you want a car, you want a good paying job, you want a nice apartment or house, you want him to have stylish designer name closed. But does that make him a good man? Or does that just make another asshole with materialistic stuff? I'm just asking and I hope to Y'all willing to answer, because I'm just really tired of keep seeing how y'all keep whining about there no good men. I saw this thing on facebook some years back and it made a lot of sense because it was kind of an unusual little memory, emmy and Irid Fuck Y'all pronounce that, and it was a picture of Christopher Reeves, you know, the guy that played the first superman movie, big blockbuster movie that made superheroes become popular, and they showed the scene where he was opening up his shirt to tie on, had the hat, the glasses and he, you know, getting ready to you see the big essl on his chest and it said women always want Superman, but walking right past Clark Kent, and that kind of brought me to this topic when, you know, I kept saying all of this ain't no good man, these men ain't nothing but community Dick. They Dick for everybody. Ain't no loyaltyd's brothers, ain't loyalties, men ain't loyal they out here for everybody. Blah, blah, Blah Blah Blah. And it still brings me back to the same point. Why do you keep going after the same type of Man, knowing Dan well, Youre going to get the same type of results, mentally or emotionally. Is fucked up with you? You got some low self esteem where you got an emotional issue, you got daddy issues or something dis root it is keeping you going after the same type of man and getting the same type of results? Or do you believe in your head that if you love him and if you show him your loyalty and you jump through hoops and you do everything he want to do, he going to say she's a good one and I can't fuck up with her and I'm going to lover and be writing just that. You think you're going to changing? Yeah, you ain't gonna Changing. You Ain't gonna Change Him at all. The only thing you going to change is you going to make him worse than what he was, because he know if he can go out here and do all his dirt and you're going to sit there witting talking about you will you know a relationship takes work and you got to fight for yours. This that another why are you fighting for somebody that ain't fighting for you? That is always perplex me about women. Y'All constantly fighting for a dude that ain't fighting for you. He's not fighting for your love, he's not fighting for your affections, he's not fighting for your attention and your loyalty. He ain't doing none of that. All you want to do is keep you around. Is the main piece, while he got six, seven, eight nine side pieces and you allowing him to do it. So why the fuck would he go anywhere? Shit? She allow me to fuck around with all the bitches. All I got to do is come back say baby, I'm sorry, I love you. They don't mean nothing. It was just sex and then Bami back together. Or she forget about the whole thing. Then she want to go beat up the woman who don't know nothing about her, or even do the he even had a woman and vice versa, vice versa. Let's get this straight. Okay, we women be pulling that shit too. The only difference is y'all got consequences behind y'all doing that shit. When you got a main dude and five, six other dicks on the side, you got a consequence on on your end, because fuck around and break that...

...condom. But that motherfucker don't work the way as supposed to, or y'all got drunken, got caught up in the moment and one was not used. You will be on Mari Povich while he with the little yellow envelope, hollering he is not the father. Let's not pretend like that ain't happening. All right, before we start pointing fingers back at each other, but I'm just bringing this up because I really think you need to figure out what's a good man for you and not keep going with this generalization of what a good man is. You need to determine what is the characteristics of his content that makes him a good man for me, because what a good man is for you may not be a good man for the next woman, and what may not be a good man for this woman may be a perfect man for you. But you got to sit there and determine what it is about the character, the content of the character, that makes them a good man for you. And fellas do the same fucking thing. Stop going after the freak, the whole, the slut broad and thinking you got a good woman because you're going to put her in check or put it down and be or she just addicted to the Dick and she gonna do whatever you want, this, that and other all, always remember, no matter how big Yo Dick is, somebody going to be born with a bigger one. That's just reality. Get over it, live with it, move the fuck on, whatever you got to do. That's just reality. But I want to keep this series going because I want to get more interaction amongst men and women, and I specially want to hear from women about what it is that you consider as a good man, because I want to help you be able to find the good man so you can get through the Sea of assholes, because there's plenty of assholes out there and there is enough good men out there. You just have to identify them. And that's what this is going to be about, helping you identify the good men this out there, because I guarantee you, every woman out here, if you know more than five men, there is more than likely one good man in that five man group that you ain't paying no attention to. Youtube busy chasing after the asshole because he swagged up and he's exciting and all that other superficial shit that even a good man can acquire. He can develop them saying traits and skills, but you got to let him know that's what excite you, that's what turn you on. Now, he ain't gonna do that for somebody this not going to appreciate him for the man that he is and willing to, you know, put on a persona to keep his woman happy, because that's what a good man would do. He wouldn't come to you with the fake persona. He come to you as a real man, as a good man. And then, in Y'all dating, relationship, courting, whatever the fuck you want to call it, you established to the brother what it is that excite you, what it is that you like, and then he can adopt some of them traits. I don't expect him to turn into the bad boy running out here robbing liquor stores and selling dope on the corner and going to jail and shooting guns and shit. He may never do that, but he can take on the dress, he can take on the attitude and the persona that you would like. Hey, as long as he plowing your ass down in the bedroom, then shit, all the other ship is acquirable. It's something that he can develop to satisfy you. Now, remember that goes both ways. So if he willing to do that for you, then you need to meet him halfway and come correct on your own for his behalf, and see a lot of that is not happening and that is why so much conflict between men and women in this country and women finding it hard to find a good man. But we are out there, but you have got to know how to identify him. You not identifying a good man, you just identifying demand that you think you want and not finding somebody that you need, and that's the big difference. Get Out of the Terry...

McMillan Romance novels, whatever the fuck she writing, and all them other lifetime shows and get off of that crap, because ain't none of that real. That's all something somebody wrote up and you can't use that as a guideline to determine what is a good man and fell the same thing. You can't use the stuff that you read and all of that, you know, playboy, penthouse or whatever you reading and thinking all women is that and Y'all got to get out of that. Got To get out of it. Can keep watching the rap videos and think that every woman out there who got a big booty a small waist in the pretty face is some fuck freak slut that all you got to do is Brag about your rap career, grab your Dick to show how big it is and Bam, she and their riding on your pole. It don't work that way. And if you do meet a woman and that's all it took for you to get her to ride on your pole, then brother Sir, friend Man Homey Ace Boon Koon, take your ass to the clinic the next fucking morning and get yourself checked out, because you might have some shit that they can't identify or they might need to study it in order to clarify what, what exactly it is. So just keep that in mind. Those are just some of the things that we need to get on because before I get deep into this series that I'm going to do on the good man guy, we have to establish what a good man is not first, and that'll be the next episode, the next episode when we come back with the original guru of good game and the good man guy, we going to speak on what a good man is not, so you can stop delusioning yourself and thinking that's a good man, because a lot of y'all is seriously delusional. You really are. You looking at superficial characteristics and applying them to good man traits, and that's not even close to how that shit worked, and we going to get into that on a deeper level. I just wanted to kick it on this to let you know about this series and I'm gonna do good man guy. It's going to help you identify the good man and it's also going to help the men out here identify the good man traits they have in themselves and work more on that, becoming dominant in his personality and character so it'll overpower the non good man traits, because we all got that. And that's how I had to learn to be a good man, because I had them characteristics. They were already there. The traits was already there. I was doing a lot of them and didn't realize that's what I was doing. But unfortunately, in the state, in the city and did I grew up in, if you weren't a bad boy out here causing all kind of trouble and Ruckus, then you were lame, you were a nice guy, you were all the shit. That did not attract a woman, and I'm serious on that one. They least that's what it had them to me. Now, I can't speak for the other brothers out here, but that's what happened to me. That was my experience, and it wasn't until I got out of high school and I actually started living up to who I really was and stopped trying to be somebody that I knew I can never be, because that just wasn't in me to be that way, is when the world opened up to me and the good women just started coming out the fucking woodwork. I mean it was like roaches to a Jelly Donut, sitting in the middle of the floor. Boom they was on my ass and I you know, and for me that was kind of unusual because I never had that kind of attention. But it wasn't until I got older out of high school, left the city I was in and went somewhere else. I went to the south. Yeah, that's right, I went down to the ATL and I had got a different perspective from some of the women that I met down there who were actively outseeking a good man because they were good women. And, needless...

...to say, I had a lot of choices, but that was the problem. I wasn't a player type. I wasn't going to be lying to this one while I'm laying up in the bed with that one. I wasn't trying to take all these numbers in, I wasn't trying to get this little stable of women to compete for my attention. I just wasn't going to do that. And the reason why I wasn't going to do that because, while I'm holding up, look, I can't marry all of them, Kenna, I can only marry one unless I join one of them poligamous colts. And yet that ain't about to happen because you know you, your man is not on that religious bullshit in no way, shape or form. So that wasn't going to happen. That was a nonstarter from the jump. But the way I looked at it, these are some good women and there's some good men out there. They missing each other because they wasting their time trying to get me to pick them. Is the main one. I just felt a little, you know, more responsibility to be a little upfront and a little bit more righteous about my shit. You know, I made my choice for the one that I wanted to spend my time with. It didn't work out the way I wanted to. She portrayed herself as a good woman and then flip the scripting. decided a good girl wanted to go bad and she went bad and last thing I heard she was a crackhead hole somewhere up and down Olympic Avenue. That was last thing I heard. Now, how much of that is the truth? I don't know. I said I am seen her in years, but that's what I heard, because she decided that the drug dealer was more exciting and more fun to be around than me and that's who she ran with. You know, she wanted to experience the bad boy lifestyle and, you know, the excitement and the street life. Yeah, well, she got a crash course on the street light, because I didn't heard some things that she had to do to get high, and some of it included a pit bull. I ain't going to say what with entail with the pit bull, but that's what I heard. Well, actually I saw a photo, but I didn't want to bring that up. It is what it is. Anyway, we going to keep this going because I believe this is a good topic dead a lot of people, especially women y'all, need to hear this shit, and I know I'm a little bit raw, unfiltered and sometimes I'm even a little bit harsh on the women, and only reason why I'm a little bit more harsher on the women is because you are our mother's, you are the mothers of our children. You are the child's first teacher in life and it is imperative did you have the right information and the right situation in the right environment so that you can teach that child correctly? Now you got a man putting you through all kinds of stress and headache. He running around, this woman, that woman, you going through all jump through all these hoops trying to catch him and catch her, and man, that's just too much stress and that's too much negative knowledge for a child to receive at such a young age. I want them to have a healthy mental idea of relationships, not this twisted shit that a lot of us is dealing with and going through right now, and there is a lot of us. Watch more twenty something years, Jerry Springer, twenty five years, and they can show you did it's a lot of twisty shit happening out here and it doesn't need to be that way. We need to we need to get that shit right. So, now that I gave you a little bit on the beginning of the good man guide. Like I said, we going to get more specific and the next week's episode of the Good Man Gude, but right now we just wanted to give you an idea of what the show is about and what it is that we trying to accomplish. And mainly we just trying to give good...

...men better game and trying to give good women game to get to the good man. That's what the good man guide is all about. Now I can't speak for the good women because I'm not a woman, so I can't do that, but I can speak for the men, or at least about men, to the women, because I'm a man and this is what I know, and hopefully you ladies will listen to that and you get that knowledge and you'll learn speak it, live that good man, good game truth. So I'm going to end it right there and I hope you enjoy listening to what I had to say and I hope you come back and listen some mo I really do, because we don't get some serious deep thought into this one, and it might help a lot of y'all, especially you ladies, because here's the thing that I want to leave you with before I go a good man in different parts of the world is looked upon differently compared to hearing the US. A lot out of those women from South America did walk couple of thousand miles to get to America. If you ever get a chance to speak to some of them, and I've spoken to a few, because when I lived in in Lant I work with a lot of them doing construction stuff like that. You meet a lot of people worked in couple hold tails, warehouses, just that and other and most of them spoke really good English. You had the few to have to think accent and made it difficult to kind of understand what they were saying, but you get the gist of what they was talking about. And the thing that I've learned is that a good man in South America is more popular than the bad boy is here in America, and the reason why is because they got the bad boy everywhere, the fucking car taels. That motherfuckers is in the thousands and not so much working directly for the cartail, but you got thousand motherfucker to work indirectly for the cartails. So for them women, to find a good man or a good guy is more important than the rich narco or one to work for the narco. They all got good money, they're all pockets fat. They appreciate a good guy good man more than women in America appreciate a good guy good man, and that's one of the reasons why they was coming up here, because they trying to get away from the NARCOLE's, the bad guys, the assholes that they have in abundance down there, because the drug trade is interwoven and pretty much all of their society and it's making his way to being interwoven pretty much in all of our society too. But we lucked up. We got a little bit better control and the government pretty much don't put up a no bullshit like they do down there. So we just wanted to touch on that. I hope you understand where I'm coming from now and we going to get more into it so you can understand anymore where I'm coming from. And I'm going to end this episode and if any of you get a chance, please go to og good gamecom. That's www dotoge good gamecom, and from there you can listen to any of the episodes, any two past episodes. If you sign up, you can like, share, comment on any of the episodes. Now, unfortunately, the voice recording thing is not working the way it's supposed to, or something about flash player, and maybe that's just my system. So it might work on yours but it's not working online. I'm just letting you know that right now and I'm working to rectify that problem asap because, like I said, I'm not sure if it's just because my system is a little old and since they discontinue and support for flash prayer on some of these browsers, that might be the problem. I don't know. I'll have to check into that, but I am going to get that salt, that that issue...

...solved, probably over the weekend and I should have everything back up and running no later than Tuesday or Wednesday and next week, depending on if I got to do all this myself or if I go out and hire somebody to do some of the work for me. Haven't got to that point yet. Still thinking it out, but that's where I want to leave this episode at. And once again, if you get a chance, called to www dot og good gamecom and you can leave a comment in the comment sections where it says contact us, and there will be a comment box and put in your email, write your comment. Hitsin solid takes and once again I appreciate everybody for sticking around listening. Thank you for sticking around to endo this episode and, as you know, the way I always end it is love, peace and head Greece, and I'm out.

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